There’s something truly magical about sharing the news that you’re expecting a baby, especially when that baby is arriving through surrogacy. For LGBTQ+ intended parents, this announcement often carries layers of hope, courage, and celebration. It’s a moment filled with joy, but also a bit of nerves. After all, when’s the right time to tell the world your beautiful story? And how do you share it in a way that feels authentic and joyful for you?

You’ve already been through so much to get here: IVF, choosing embryos, matching with your surrogate, and finally celebrating transfer day. Maybe you even purposefully chose the embryo’s sex through genetic testing. So when you get a phone call or see an ultrasound picture and hear the words: “It’s a boy,” your heart may sink. Wait a second… we transferred a girl embryo. Did the clinic make a mistake? Should we panic? Take a deep breath. This situation is more common than you might think, and in most cases, it’s not the result of your clinic messing up.

The embryo stage of a surrogacy journey can bring both excitement and uncertainty. Whether navigating the possibility of transferring an embryo that is not PGT-A tested, considering transferring a mosaic embryo, or debating how many embryos to transfer, the key is open communication between intended parents, their fertility team, and the surrogate.  At the end of the day, embryos aren’t just cells in a dish—they are hope, possibility, and potential. For intended parents, they represent years of dreaming. For surrogates, they’re the beginning of a very personal, life-changing journey.

Choosing the right surrogacy escrow company is one of the most critical steps in your surrogacy journey, even if the choices are limited. Your escrow provider is responsible for holding and disbursing the funds necessary to support the surrogate throughout the process. With large sums of money, sensitive personal data, and complex legal timelines involved, it's vital to ensure you're working with a trusted, compliant, and secure partner. Before selecting an escrow provider, here are the essential questions you should ask about a surrogacy escrow company—to protect both your funds and your peace of mind.